中国夫妻的婚姻生活“冷藏”法

婚后怎么维持好家庭 ?托尔斯泰说“温馨的家全是一样的，悲剧的家中却各有各的不幸”。在我国，温馨的家的关联性就是说：有着下列的物品：

童心

 zhuduozhongguorenduiyixiezhonglaonianxiaiyaotouhuangnao、huangexiaoyubulejie，yizhiyuchizhiwei“jingshenjibing”。zheizhongrenhulveletongxinbuminnengtishengxuxu duoduode shenghuolequ。hunhouzenmeweichihaojiating?lianaijiehunshiyihuishima?

 shijishang，zhinengtongxinbumin，qingchunnianshaocaikezhangzhu，ganqingcaikejingjiubushuai，yincishinengbaocunduoyidianerchunzhen、danchunxing，duoyouzheyidianerxihao、qiuzhiyu，duowanyouxiyidianshoujiyouxi。wulunshichengnianrenhuanshilaoren，chuwaisuirandang“zhengrenjunzi”，kefanhuijia，damenkouyiguanjiushidangdaxiaohai。

烂漫

 xuduozhongguoshijiatingtailiuyishijishang，erquefalanman。huoxuxuduorenyushangneiyangdetichuwenti“gongzuozhong、jiawuhuomangleyizhengtianhou，yijiarenweihemeiqusansanxinni?”huihuiyingshuo：“wohaolei”。shubuzhizheizhongshuo“tinglei”derenguobushangyihuierjiuleiqi“sifangcheng”lai，yizhiyuzhengyezhengyedapai。

 kandejian，kefoulanmandeguanjiansuozaishibushiyouzhelangmanqixi。bubirenweilanmanwuyinjiushishuoxianhua、wudao，bubirenweimeiyoushijian、meiqianjiubukeyilanman。yaolejie，lanmandefangshishiduozhongduoyang、gezhonggeyangde。

风趣

 henduorenbaxiaiwanxiaodangzuoyouqianghuadiao、zuoshiyikaobuzhu，juedefuqijianfayanyingdangzhuzhongqueshi，buxuyaozhuzhongtanhuaneirongzaoxingyishu。quebuzhidao，shuohuafengqunenghuanjie、huancunfenqihejiufenanjian，qingchunankanhejiedi，tishengqingquyongjuyuganqing，rangyijiarenqilerongrong。

亲密

 henduofuqishichangchangqinmiweinianzhanhuhu，biaoshu“bugongranqinmi”bushiqingtiaodezhuyaobiaoxian。danquanweizhuanjiakexueyanjiufajue，qinmiduitishengjiazhongshenghuopinzhiyongyouliulianwangfandegongxiao，erzhangqixingquefaxiangyong、jiewenderenfeichangrongyizaocheng“jifuaie”，congerzaochengqingganaie。

 yiner，richangjiatingshenghuoshinengduodianerqinmidexingwei。biru，zhangdayihoudeguinvrengwanzhulaoshideshou;fuqichumenkouxiangyong、qinwen;yifanghuijiachile，hebupaiyipaifanmangdelingyifangde“mapi”，zheixie。

暖心情话

 shehuixuejiajuede：peiouzhongjianmeirizuishaodexianglingyifangshuosanjuzuoyoutianmanqinggandenuanxinqinghua，ru“woxihuanni”、“woainidemoumoumouyoushi”。

 shubuzhi，xuduozhongguorentaiguoliuyiweiwan，xuduorenruoba“ai”guazaizuishang，jiuhuibeichengzuoshiqianlou、rangrenrouma。xuduozhongguofuqigengqidaipeioubaaifanyingzaixini、tiexindeguanzhushang。zheisuiranduile，danjiaruzhinengtongyixingdong，mei tianku hua，huifoushiren“zhinengzhucai，meiyouzuoliao”dequedianganni?

沟通交流

 changchangzaiyingshizuopinzhongtingjianfuqimouyifangshuo：“woyaozhaonitanyitan!”yinci，bicihuizhaoyigejiyubaxinlidehenmanquandaochuqu。erxuduozhongguofuqibajianyi、henmanyayiganxinli，butiaoming，haimeimingqiyue“haopiqi，youhanyang”。shijishang，huxiangsuobizhiyouzaochengwujiejiazhong，zhangqixingyayiganxiangdangyuxujiliangebiandongneng，yidanbaofa，huimiexinggengda。

 dajiashibushikandejian，yixiepingchangjiaowangfeichanghaodefuqiyidanchaoqijialaijiufanzhennianjiuzhang，bachenguzilanzhimadeshiqingyigunaoerquandaochuqu，jieguo“zhanshi”shengji，maodunjihua，youdeyizhiyuzaochenglaoyanfenfei。

 yiqiezhengchangdezuofayingdangshitishenggoutongjiaoliu，youjianyi、henmanyingchengzhi、rouhe、zhuzhongduicedishuochuqu，bingchangchangjijidizhangwolingyifangyounaxieniantou。chaozhengchaoyebuyidingshicuoshi，zhongjiutadoushiyizhonggoutongjiaoliufangshi，jinjinzhengchaoshibuyaozaitiguoqu、biekaizhanrenshengongji。

欣赏

 dajiachangjianxinshangdeyanguangkanzishendexiaohai，yincizongganjue“xiaohaishizishendehao”;youyouyuchangjiankekedeyanguangkanpeiou，yincizongjuedexifu(laogong)shitarendehao。biru，yifangquanxintourupuzaigongzuofangmian，lingyifangjinenggouxinshang：“ta(ta)zerenxinqiang!”haikeyichize：“yidiandoububajiafangzaixinshang!”

 zheibiaomingle，yongbuyiyangdeyanguangqudianpingtongyijianshi，yijuhuijieranbutong。dangnibujiasisuojiunengshuchupeiouhenduoquexian，neima，nidabufenqianquexinshangyanguang。dangnizhudong、shenhoudouzhishuopeioudeyoushi，neima，jiuxiangdangyudongdeleai，nenggouhuodedaoai。lianaijiehunshiyihuishima?