导师精选：一旦陷入自卑的泥潭，该如何挣脱？

youhenduolaifangzhegenwoliaoguozibeizijishoukunyuzibeidewenti。zaiherenxiangchuhuozuoshideshihou，douhuishenshendeshoudaoyingxiang。

wofaxian，yibufenrendezibeigan，zaiyanxingjuzhizhonghenrongyibiaoluchulai，haiyouyibufenrendezibeizebeiyayidehenshen。

tamenkansifuhedajiayanzhongyouxiudebiaozhun，quejingchangzhaoyifen“buzenmeyangdegongzuo”heyige“buzenmeyangdebanlv”，ermianduiyijianhenqingsongdeshiyeyichangjiaolv，hebierenxiangchuyezongshibaochijulidengdeng。zhongzhongbiaoxiandebeihou，qishiyuanyindoushizibei。

ruhequlejiehegaishanzibeigan?jintianwomenjiulailiaoliaozibeiqingjiezheizhongzibeigan。

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自卑感的来源

guanyubeizibeiganshenshenkunraozheiyidian，wowenguohenduolaifangzhe，zongjieqilai，huidajihudoushizheiyangzheidian：“buzixin、peibushang、bibuguo、juedezijihenchajing……”

danshidajiazixixiangxiang，zheixieciyu，shibushidoushiyongzaiwomen“bijiao”deshihou?

ruguomeiyoubijiao，nalilaidepeibushanghebibuguo?

suoyizibeigandezhuyaolaiyuanzhengshibijiao，wuluntashiyouyishide，haishiwuyishide。

zaiyutarenxiangchudeshihou，zheizhongbijiaodexiguandailaibibuguohepeibushangdeganshou。

tongli，zheizhongbijiaoyeyoukenengfashengzai“xianzaideziji”he“lixiangzhongdeziji”zhong。

zaizheizhongzhangqide“bijiao”xiguanxiachanshengdehuixinheshoucuogan，huiyingxiangwomenderenzhiheneizaidejiazhigan，zhujianxingchengzibeidexingge。

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被自卑感困扰的一些表现

shouzibeigankunraoderenhuiyoubutongdebiaoxian，xiamianwoliejuyixiedianxingchangjiandelizi：

1)zuoshishifenhaixiu、danqie、youyubujue，shenzhiwufachengdanrenhegerenhuoyugongzuoyouguandezeren。

yinweitamenbuquedingzijishifounenggoushengren，zheizhongziwohuaiyiyerangtamenchanshengleqiangliedebuanquangan。

lilijiushizheiyangdeyigelizi，zuoweiwudaolaoshi，tiaowubenshitadezhangxiang。danbeiyaoqiujieguoxuexiaonianhuidebiaoyanxiangmushi，taxinlifeichangjiaolv，zheifenjiaolvshenzhiyingxiangdaoletadezhengchanggongzuohexiuxi，zhiyaonianhuimeiyoujieshu，tajiunanyianning。

dannianhuidabufenrendoucanyuguo，qishishiyizhongfeichangqingsongdefenxiangguocheng，bingmeiyourenneimeguanzhutabiaoxiandehaoyuhuai。

2)congshejiaoquanxiaoshi，jujueyutarenwanglai。

tamenrenweituoliletarende“bijiao”dedahuanjing，daizaizijideshushiqujiubuhuineimeshouzibeidekunrao。

3)yuqianyizhongrenxiangfan，lingwaiyixieyouzibeiqingjiederenhuixuyaotongguochixudi、guodudixunqiutarendeguanzhu，laihuodeduiziwojiazhidekending。

zhangqiyilaidezibeihedizizun，shitamenwufacongzijizheilidedaokendingzijijiazhidelaiyuan，erzhinengyilaiwaijiedeguanzhuhepingjialaiduihuodeziwojiazhidekending。

4)guoyudehaoqiang、yaomianzi。

 haiyouyixierenxiwangtongguowaizaibiaoxiandeqiangdalaimibuzijidezibeigan，zheiyebeikanzuoshiyizhonggetixiwangdapoxunhuansuozuodebuchangshinuli。

xiaolizaizheidianshangjiufeichangdianxing，jinguantazuishangshuozherenwuwanren，bukenengyounagerenkeyibameixianggongzuodouzuohao，danshijishangtaquezaiyongzheizhongzhuiqiuwanmeidebiaozhunyaoqiuziji。

wulunzijinagebufenchuxianlechacuoheyilou，tadouhuigandaoshifendezizeheaohui。ruguomouxianggongzuochengjibeixinrenchaoyuele，tashenzhihuibuchibushuidequganchaohuiqu。

zuizhongyaodeshi，zheiyiqiejitadailaideshijishouyiqishiyebingbuduo，gengduodeshitaneizaiduizijidekeze。 qinggannantihenxinlei？10skuaisushenqingqingganzhenduan！

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自卑感的改善方式

1)zibeizongshihendachengduyingxiangrenmendeshenghuo，danyaozhidao，zibeiduirendeyingxiangyeyoujijideyimian，bingbushifeiheijibaide。

zibeihezixinjiuxiangshishiyimeiyingbidezhengfanliangmian，meigerendouxiwangtongguozijidenuli，laijinxingziwoshixianhebeikanjian。

erzheizhongzibeigan，zhengshizaizheifangmian“yongliguomeng”le。

youyijuhuashuo，yongganbushibuhuigandaohaipa，ershijibianhaipahaishijixuqumiandui。

dangyigerenjuedezijihenruoxiaodeshihou，defangfajiushiquchengrenzijideruoxiao。chengrenlezheiyidian，jiushijienadekaishi，yejiushigaibiandekaishi。

womenzuixiangtaobide，qishijiushiwomenzuigaimianduide。yinweizaizheigetaobixia，qishiyouyifenwomenshenshendechuangshang。

chengrenhekanjianta，jiushibazheigechuangshangcongnanyijuechadewuyishizhonglahuidaolechongmanaideyishizhizhong。

ruoxiaobingbushiyiweizhewuyonghuobeikanbuqi，meigerendouyouzijicuiruodebufen。jiuwoeryan，napawojuedezijicuiruodebufenbibierenduo，wojuedeyewusuowei。

yinweishibaibingbushiyiweizheyizhongfouding，ershizhouweihuanjingdaijizijideyizhongdongtaifankui。

yunxuzijiyouyigebeibangzhuhejinglibianqiangdadeguocheng，youlezheiyangdexintaijianshe，womencaibuhuizai“shibaigan”zhongzuoyouzhengzha，buduandegongjiziji，bingyongyixiezouwanludefangshiquzhengmingziji。

2)xuyaobacishengzibeiheyuanshengzibeifenbiekailaikandaihechuli。

ruguoniganjuezijinonghoudezibeigan，hendayibufenlaiziyuzijideyuanshengjiating。

dangnizhidaogenjushujuxianshiyigediquzhongjiatingbutaixingfudezhanbiwei70%yishang，xiangxinnihuimingbai，zaizheijianshishangqishinibuyongneimejinzhang。

erzheixierijiyueleideyingxiangqueshiyizhicunzai，yingxiangzhewomendeshenghuo。duici，keyiyueduyixiexiangguandeyouzhishuji、shangwangsousuokecheng，huoduiwaixunqiuzhuanyedexintaizixunbangzhu。

zhangqichenjinzaizibeiganzhongchubulai，nikenengmeiyouyishidao，niduizijidepingjiakenengshiguodierbushigengjiakeguande。jiuxiangyigefangdajingdeshiye，tadingzhezijiganjuebumanyidedifang，meitiandoudingzheneigedifang，jiuzaiqianyimohuazhong，yongneigezijibunengjieshoudexiaodiandingyilequanbudeziji。

duiyushibaigan，womenxiaoshihoukenengchangchangyeyouzheiyangdetiyan。zheizhongganshoushirucishenke，suoyizaiyudaodajixingshijiandeshihou，womenganshoudaoyehuiganzhidaofenwaidejusanghetongku。

womenkeyigaosuziji，womenyijingzhangdale，keyiweizijideshengmingfuze。shibaibingbuyiweizheyigefoudingxingdejieguo，ershishoudaodeyigefankui，tadaibiaozhewomenyuzhouweihuanjingzhijiandeyizhonghudongguanxi。

womenkeyizhongxinhuodeyigeduizijidepingjia，keyicongyixiexiaodejijidexintaianshikaishijilei。

3)yiduanlianghaowendingdeyouyi，yenenggoubangzhuwomenyouxiaodegaishanzibeigan。

congpengyouneili，womenyizhiyayizhedeyixiefumiannengliangdeyibeikanjianheliutong。tongshi，womenyenengjieshoudaoyixiezhengmiandefankui。

pengyoumenjidaodezhengmiangulihezheizhongqinggandeliudong，huijiangzijiyuanbenjuxianxingdeshijiaolahuidaoyangguangkaikuodeshuipingxian，congerguanzhudaozijideyoudian。

tayeshiyizhihuanjiepilaodehuanchongji，duizijixiweichudebianhuajinxingzaicidezhengmianqianghua。

yishangbianshiwojintiandefenxiang，zhumeiyigezhengbeizibeigankunraodenizhaohuiziji，niconglaibubibierencha，zhishinizijineiyangrenweieryi!