女生太过主动追求男生，为什么会严重掉价？

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故事一

xiaoyajinnian30chutou，zaiyigegongsirenzhigaoguan，zhangdepiaoliang，gongzuonengliyehenqiang。zaiyixianchengshiyouzijidefangzi，gongdaikuanguobaiwan。

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zheibenlaishiyigemeihaodegushi，danshishiqingkendingbuhuineimejiandan，buranyebuhuihedajiataolunle。

zheizhihou，nanshirengranhenmang，meiyoutaiduoshijianpeita，shitagengjiaolvle。chulebutingfaxinxizhaota，haihuidadianhuajita。mingmingshiyijingquedingguanxile，danshiganjueguanxihaishihenyuan，zaixiaoyadegezhongzhetengxia……lianggeyuehouyifenshougaozhong，ranhouzaixintairendingweizheigerenshizhanan。

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nanshengyikaishijiubutaireqing，liaotiandeneirongyebijiaoguanfang。xiaoyajuedeyudaozheimeyouxiudenanshi，zijizhudongyidianyeshiyinggaidema，zheisihuhaoxiangtingyoudaolide。suoyixiaoyaziyuanzhudong，duifangyeshipeihe，houlaihaizhudongyuelexiaoyachifan，liangrenjianmianyetingyukuaide。

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xiangzheimeyigepiaolianghaigongzuonenglibucuodenvsheng，weishenmeganqingbushunni?

kanwangushier，womenzaiyiqilaikankandangzhongdewenti。

故事二

xiaojie，25sui，bangongshiwenyuangongzuo，busuantaipiaoliang，zhangxiangxiuqisiwen。xihuanshangbangongshideyigenantongshi，juededuifangyouwencai，zhangdeyeshizijixihuandeleixing。

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yinweigongzuoguanxijianguoxuduonvzhuinanshibaidecanan，zheiliangzhongshiqizhongbijiaodianxingde。jiezheilianggegushiyiqilaikankanqizhongyinzangleshenmebuweirenzhidemimi。

ruguodajiaduizheilianggegushiyoushenmexiangshuode，keyizaipinglunquligaosuwomene!

01

为什么说主动追的人要付出更多?

 zailianaizhong，nanshengzhuiqiunvshengjiaozhuiqiu，nvshengzhuiqiunanshengjiujiao“daozhui”，doushuonanzhuinvgezhongshan，nvzhuinangecengsha，youcikejiannannvzhijiandezhuiqiushiyouchayide。

diyigegushidenvsheng，shiyinxingdaozhuixing，biaoxianhaibutaimingxian，zhishihuizaixiangduidequedingguanxilibijiaozhudong。yeshimuqianganqingmoshilibijiaochangjianzhuangkuang。

diergegushizhongdenvsheng，buguanzaishixingweishang，haishiyuyanshangdouhenzhudong，shihenmingxiandedaozhui。

doushuodaozhuideganqingbijiaonanjingying，zaiwozixunguodezhongduoanlizhong，zuihouyezhijiandaoyilishidaozhuihouhaihenxingfude。

zaiganqinglizhudongdeyifangtongchangshixuqiugengdadeyifang，xuqiudajiuxuyaofuchugengduo。

dangyigenanshengzhuiqiuyigenvsheng，tayeshixuyaofuchuhenduocainengdadongnvshengdexin，nvshengzhuiqiunanshengyetongyangruci。

nvxingdeshengwubenxingjuedingzishendejiazhi，yinweikeyishengyuxiaohai。suiranxianzailianaijiehundoubuyidinghuishengxiaohai，youderenshenzhizhongshengbuyaoxiaohai，danlianaideguochengyeshiweiraozheiyibenxingxuyaozaifazhan。

nvshengzaiganqingliruguoyexiangnanshengyiyangquzhuiqiuduifang，zheiyangzaixintaishangdeganjuehuishiheng，hennanzhangjiujianchixiaqu。daduonvzhuinandeganqing，shijianzhanglenvshengdouhuiganjuehenlei、xiangfangqi，qizhongyigeyuanyinjiushizheige。

nanxingdezerenshiyangyuhaizi，weihoudaitigongshengcunziyuan，suoyinanxingzaiganqinglibaochifuchu，huishiguanxigengwendingerzhangjiu。

ruguoshinvshengzhuiqiunansheng，jiuchengxianfuchuguoduodezhuangtai，bujinhuishiguanxishiqupingheng，yehuiranglingyifangbuzhenxi。rongyidedaodedongxi，womenhuiqianyishijuedejiazhibugao，ziranjiubuhuizhenxi。

dangwomendefuchububeizhenxideshihou，fuchudejiazhijiumeiyoudedaodechengxian。zhangshijianfuchumeiyouhuibao，yidinghuixinshengyuanyan，congeryingxiangguanxi。nvxingyouzijibenxingjiazhihezerensuozai，yedaozhiyunvxingzaiganqinghennanxiangnanxingyiyangjianchizhangshijiandefuchu。

02

女生太主动会有什么弊端?

dangzaiganqinglinvshengtaiguozhudongdeshihou，nanshengjiuhuibiandebijiaobeidong，shijianzhanglejiuhuixingchenggudingdeguanximoshi。

nvshengdaozhuideganqing，benshenjiushiyinweizhudongcaiyoulezheiduanganqingdecunzai，zhuiqiuchenggonghouyouqidainanshengnengxiangzhengchanglianaiguanxineiyangfuchu，zheigeshihounvshengdexianshiheyuqijiuhuichanshengchongtu，congerchanshengqingxu。

dabufennvshengzaiganqinglihennanchulihaozijideqingxu，tongshihaihuiyingxiangzhengchangdeguanxi，zheiyanghuishiganqinghennanweichi。

03

女生主动追，男生的内心独白是什么?

zaizhengchangqingkuangxia，lianaichuqiyibandoushinanshengzhudong。

dangnvshengzhudongshi，nanshengyifangmianhuixiangshounvshengzhudongdailaidefuli，lingyifangmian，huidanxintaiguozhudongdenvshengshifoucunzaiyidingdefengxian，huigengjiaxiaoxinjinshendiduidai。

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qiuerbudedeshihou，yehuichanshengqingxu，zaiguanxilizhizaoyixiechongtuhemaodun。zheigeshihouyeyinglenanshengdecaice，zheigenvshengguoranyouwenti，guoranbunengqingyixiangxin。yushijiugengjiaduinvshengyoujiebeizhixin。

erzheigeshihounvshenghaipashiqu，youzhudongdaoqianqiuhe，zaiganqingjixufuchushenzhifuchugengduolaiweixiguanxi。nanshengyezaijixuxiangshouzheizhonghaochudeshihou，xintaidejiebeixingengqiang。

rucixunhuan，guanxilidepinghengjiuhuizaodaopohuai，shihengyuelaiyueyanzhong，zhidaozuihouguanxiduanlie。

nvshengdaozhuidedeganqinghennanjingying，chulediandaodeguanximoshihuiyingxiangganqingwendingzhangjiuyiwai，haiyouyigezhongyaodeyuanyinshishengwubenxingdeyuanyin。xiaqiwomenzailaifenxiang，guanyunannvshengwubenxingduiganqingdezhongyaoyingxiang。