导师精选：男人在择偶时，更看重的是什么？

weishenmeshuonvshengdaozhuideganqinghennanjingying，haiyouyigezhongyaodeyuanyinshishengwubenxing。zaishengwushangyiniandejinhuaguochengzhong，beibaoliuxialaideyiqietexingdoushiyouyiyide，zheixieyezhengshishiwomenrenleifazhanzhijinfanshengdezhongyaoyuanyin。

womenweishenmexihuanzhangdehaokan、shencaigaodadenansheng?

weishenmenanshengxihuanpiaoliang、shencaijiaoxiaodenvsheng?

weishenmenanrenyaoyongganyouzerenxin，ernvrenyaowenrouhuichijia?

weishenmeyaonanshengzhudongyidian?weishenmeyaonvrenjinchiyidian?

weishenmenongcunzhongnanqingnv?

jintianyiqilailejieyixiazheixiewomenchangjiandewentibeihouzhenshideyiyi。

01

男女的平等需要建立在遵循本性特质

nannvzhendepingdengma?zheigedaanshikendingde!

congrenge、zhengzhi、jingji、wenhua、shehuihejiatingdengfangmianwomenxiangyoupingdengdequanli。buguozheigepingdeng，bushishuojueduidepingdeng，ershishuoxiangduidepingdeng。

bushiwomenchangshuodeyaozuoyiyangdeshiqing，ershizunxungezibenxingtezhidepingdeng。

xiangnanxingtixingpubianbinvxingda，liqiyegengda，tamennengbannengtai。ruguoyaoqiuyiyang，womenyeyaohetamenbantaiyiyangzhongdewupin，xianranwomenwufazuodao。

ernvxingnengshengyuhaizi，zheijianshiqingnanxingyebanbudao。suoyishuonannvpingdeng，buyinggaishiyaozuoyiyangdeshiqing，ershixuyaozunxunbenxingtezhidepingdeng。

dangwomenzuxianhaishenghuozaishandongshiqi，nanxingfuzezhuiganliewuhebaohuzuqun，younvxinglaishengyuhefuyuhoudai。nanxingshencaigaodayouli，ernvxingpubianjiaoxiaorouruo，nanxingzhuanzhuligao，nvxingganshouligengqiang，suoyishuangfangcainengfengonghezuo，gongtongshengcunheyangyuhoudai。

nanxingzhuanzhulijiaogao，yinweishouliehenweixian，zhuanzhucainengjishifaxianweixian。suoyijingguoqianwanniandejinhua，shinanxingdezhuanzhulibiandegenggao，jibianjintianwomenbuxuyaoshoulieweisheng，zheigetexingrengranbaoliuzaiwomendejiyinmimali。

womennvxingzuxian，liqibijiaoxiao，yicaijisangguoweizhu，caijixuyaoguanzhuduguangerfensan。

nvxingpengyoumenyoumeiyouzheiyangdetiyan，tongshikeyizuohaojijianshiqing，tongchangkeyibianhongwabianhebianbierenliaotian，henyoukenengguolihaizhufan。youhuozhezaijializhaodongxideshihou，nanxinglaoxihuanwentinvxingdongxifangzainaer，zhaobantianyehennanzhaodao，ernvxingyichuma，likejiuzhaodaole。

zheijiushiwomenshunyingshengcunfazhandexuyaoerjinhuachulaidebutongtexing。

nvxingzaibuyuhaizideguochengzhong，haizibuhuishuohua，quankaoganshoulilailejiehaizidexuqiu，nengtongguohaizidekushengbutong，zhunquefenbianhaizidexuqiu，shielehaishibingle，zheidoushinvxingdebenneng。

suiranxianzaikejifadale，womengezhongkejishouduanlaidachengmude，lirutongguozhuanyedexunlianzengjianvxingdeliliang，tongguoshoushulaigaibianxingbie，shenzhihuaiyun。

suiranyequdeyidingdechenggong，danzheibijingweifanleshengwubenxing，suoyidaijiajuda，bingbunengchengweipubianxianxiang，yebushinannvpingdengdebiaoxian。zhinengshuomingkejijinbule，rangwomendeshenghuoyoulegengduodexuanze，yerangwomenkanjianlegengduodekeneng，kezheibunengtidaishiwuzhengchangdefazhanguilv。

ruguozaizunzhongbenxingdeqiantixiaquzuoxiangyingdetisheng，huishibangongbei，fanzhiyiran。

02

男女需求不同

zaiwomensuonengjiandaodepingdengzhiwaihaiyoushiwudepinghengguilv、shengtaidepinghenghewuzhongfazhandepingheng。

 kanguoyigekejiaojiemu，shuonanxingyishengzhongchanshengdejingzishu，kedayiwanyiyishang;nvxingyishengkechanshengdechengshuluanzikeda400duoke。rucijudadechayi，shidewomendexingweiyefashenglejudadechayi。

womendouzhidaowuyixiweigui，keyilijieweishaodegengyoujiazhiyegengzhengui。ershuliangpangdade，xiangduijiazhihuidi。

erzheiyiqienannvdouzhidao，bingqieyongxingdongbiaoshi。suoyinanxingtongchangshizhudongdeneiyifang，ernvxingshibeidongxuanzedeneiyifang。

bujinyinweishengwubenxingdeyuanyin，gengshiyinweixuanzecuowuhousuofuchudedaijiabutong。

ruguoxuanzecuowu，nanxingzhishisunshiyidianshijianjingli，ernvxingkenengfuchudeshizhenggerenshenghehoudaishenzhishengmingdedaijia。

yigerenzhaoguhaizihelianggerenzhaoguhaizi，jieguokendingshiyousuobutongde。suiranxianzaishenghuotiaojianhaole，jingjiyefada，yigerenkeyidulizhaoguhaizizhangdachengren。danshixiangbizhixia，tamendeshenghuohaishihuibiyibanzhengchangjiatingwanzhengderenshenghuonanhenduo。

zaigudaiqingkuangjiuchabiejiugengdale，ruguoyigenvrenzaimeiyounanrenzhaoguxia，dulizhaoguxiaohaihuoxiaqushihennande。

womendouzhidaorenleixuyaohuaitaishiyuecainengchusheng，erhuaiyundeguochengzhong，shentibenzhongbulinghuo，laodongnenglixiajiang，baohuzijidenengliyexiajiang，weixianzengjiale。

zaijiashangshenghaizideguochengjingxianwanfen，dangshiyixuebugoufada，henduonvrenzaishengchandeguochengsangming。ruguomeiyoulingyibandezhaogu，jibianhaizishunlishengxialai，yehennanduzidaizhehaizicunhuoxiaqu。

erzheixiexingbiebennengyoulieshi，douzaijinhuaguochengzhongbeibaoliulexialai。

haizilaiziyunvxing，chuyubenneng，nvxingduihaizidetouruhezhaoguduoyidian，suoyiwulunfashengshenmeshiqing，yibanqingkuangxiadoubuhuiqingyilikaihaizi。zheiyeshishengmingdeyiyanxudezhongyaofangshizhiyi。suoyinvxingzaixuanzelingyibandeshihou，huixiaoxinjinshendeduo。

ruguozheigenanrenbuyuanyiweizijifuchu，keyixiangxiang，tabuyuanyiweijianglaidehaizifuchu。zheiyeshinvxingxuanzenanxingdeshihou，xiwangnanrenfuchudeqianzaizhongyaoyuanyin。

suiranxianzaiyourenxiebuyidingjiehunhoujiuhuishenghaizi，youderenshenzhixuanzezhongshengbuyaohaizi，danshengwudebennengshiweiledabufenquntifuwu，suoyizheiyibenxingtezhirengranzaixuanzedebanlvdeshihou，fahuizhezhongyaodezuoyong。

nanxingzaishengyuhaizishangmianshibangbushangshenmemangde，suoyizhinengzaiyangyuhaizifangmianchuli，yuhaizideqingganlianjieyeshihouqipeiyangqilaide。danruguohouqihaiziyufuqindeqingganlianjiemeiyoujianliqilai，neihuirangzheigefuqinjiangdileduihaizidezerengan，congerhuijianshaofuchuheduijiatingdetouzi。

cengjingkanguoyigeshipincaifang，shipinzhongfenbiecaifangleyibufennannv，wentishi：ruguozaishenzhenyouyitaofangzi，youyigehaizi，lihundeshihouxuanzehaizihaishixuanzefangzi。

jihu90%denanrenxuanzelefangzi，yuanyinshi，zaishenzhenmaiyitaofangzihenburongyi，haiziyihoujiehunkeyizaisheng。

ernvrenhuida100%douxuanzehaizi，yuanyinshi，neibijingshiyitiaominga，fangzimeiyouleyihoukeyizhuanqianmai。

kanwanzheigeshipinyegankaiwanqian，buguohuidaoshengwubenxingshangsikao，henrongyilijiezheiyiqie。zheiliwomenbushiweilezeguaisheihaosheibuhao，zhishikandaobenxingzhongdezuiyouyuwomendexuanze。

xianzailihunlvjugaobuxia，xuduolihunderenqunzhong，nvxingyehuixuanzezhaoguhaizi。bingqielihunhou，henjiudoumeiyouzaizhaoduixiang。ernanxingjihu，lihunhouhenkuaijiujinrudaoyiduanxinganqingzhong。

zheijiushibenxingbutong，zerenbutong，suoyixuanzeyechayijuda。

03

男女的不同择偶策略

guanyuxuanze，nanxingwangwangshiyishuliangqusheng，suzhansujueduinanrenlaishuoyouli，zheigebuxingganjinhuanxiayige。

shenghuozhongchanghuijiandaonanxingxuanyaozijicengjingzhaoleduoshaogenvpengyou;erxuanyaozijiyouhenduonanyoudenvshengqueshaozhiyoushao，chufeinaoqiaoyoubao，fouzeyidingbuhuichuxianzheigeqingkuang。

nanrenzaixuanyaozijinvyouduo，shizhengmingzijidenengli，wuluntashitongguoqipianhaishiqitadefangshigenzheimeduonvshengzaiyiqi，doushizhidetaxuanyaodeshiqing，zhengmingletadegerenmeiliyitawaideqitanengli，dajiazixingnaobuyixia。

ernvxingruguohuantaiduonanyou，qiahaoxiangfan，zhengminglemeiyouyigenanrenyuanyizaitashenshangzhangqitouzi，yineryejianjiezhengmingletabugouhao，wulunshenmeqingkuangjingchanghuannanyoudoubushizhidegaoxingdeshiqing。

jiushengwubenxingeryan，shuliangduinanrenlaishuoshiyouli，erzhiliangduinvxinglaishuoshiyoulide，fuchudedaijiabuyiyang，suoyixingweihuiyouhendadechayi。

daduonvxingdoujuedezijiduiganqingtebiezhuanyi，qishibushide，daduoshunvxingkenengshizheiyang，danhaiyoushaobufendebushizheiyang。

xiaoxinjinshenhezhuanyiduinvxinglaishuoshouyigengda。erhuaxinhexuanzetaisuiyidouyiweizhegaofengxian，zheibufenwomenneizaijizhihuizailiangxingjiaowangguochengzhongtixingwomen。

 suoyidangwomenyudaoyigenanxing，tayibuneimezhengchangdetaiduduidaiganqing，huoshiyiweifanshengwubenxingdefangshilailianai，womenshihuiganjuedaobuduide，yehuijuedenaliguaiguaide。zheilikeyilijiewei，womendebennengbaohujizhizaitixingwomenyouweixian。

suoyidaozhuidenvshengmenkeyiganshouyixia，shibushizongganjuenalibudui，huoshijinrulianqingyihouhenbeidong。zheidoushiyinweiweifanleshengwufazhandeguilv，cairangwomenganjuebushufu。

youjuhua，ruguoyigenanrenbuzhudong，ningyuancuoguo，shishiyeshiruci。

renleijianglaizenmejinhuafazhanbingbuzhidao，danshimuqiankanlai，zunxunbenxinghaishixiangduigenghaodexuanze，yeshixiangduizuiyoulidexuanze。

wanwujieyoutadeguilv，haimeiyouzhaodaoheshidefangshilaigaibiandeshihou，jideshunyingbenxingjiushizuiqiadangdefangshi。

 qianliangqi，womentaolunlenvshengzhudongzhuiqiunanshengdeganqinghennanjingyingdeyixiejingdiananli，yeconggegejiaodufenxiqizhongdeyuanyin，womenxiayiqijinrushicaoxing，ruhekaiqizhengchangdelianaimoshi?

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