导师精选：高情商的人是怎么说话的

shuohuadetishihengliangyigerenqingshanggaodidezhongyaobiaozhizhiyi。keshihaoxiangwomendongdehenduodaoqueyiranguobuhaozheiyishengyiyang，womenkanguohenduojiaorenshuohuadeshuji，shangguohenduojiaorenshuohuadekecheng，queyiranhuizaizijideshenghuolicaikeng。youxierendairenjiewubinbinyouli，weirenchushiqianxudidiao，kehaishinanyibimiancaiguoyixiajigekeng。

01

闲聊时交浅言深

xueshuohuaqianwantiao，qiemojiaoqianyanshendiyitiao。

kenenghenduorendouyoubiaodadeyuwang，qingsudexuqiu，suoyijibianzhidaozheigedaoli，haishihuizairenjijiaowangdechanghezhongbatawangdaonaohou。

zheiyeshizaizhichangzhongtebieduojian。

youyici，xuexiaoqinglaileyigetuiguangmoukuanxinxihuajiaoxueruanjiandezhuanjiajiwomenpeixun，youtongshitiyiwomenbazheikuanruanjianyingyongdaopingshidejiaoxuegongzuozhong，rangxueshengshangkedouyongshouji。

wodexiangfashishoujikeyizuoweiyigelianxigoutong、chayuezhishi、yulexiuxidegongju，danbixuyougedu，bunengyincihuangfeilezhizhiyuedu、daimanlerenyurenzhijiandemianduimianjiaoliu。

dangwobazheigejianjiezaibangongshiqitatongshimianqianfabiaohepipanneigetichujianyidetongshishi，youweitongshiduiwogezhongfuhe，gezhongzhichiwodeguandian。

zhidaoyouyitian，wokandaoxuexiaoqunlifabuleruanjiangongsianyingyongruanjianchengduhepinlvpingchushengjishidarenwudebaodao，qizhongyouyiweijiushineigefuhewodetongshi。

wocaiyishidaoyuanlairenjiazaifuhewodetongshiyezaijijixiangyingdanweihaozhao，yingyongcishudoukeyipaizaishengjiqianshimingle，beidanweibiaoyangtibadetongshihaishouyaodaobeijingcanjiaruanjiangongsidenianhui。

zheijianshirangwomingbaile：womenkeyiyongzhengquedefangshitichuyijianhuojianyi，danbiesuiyidaochupingpanrenshiwu。

wulunshizhichangshanghaishishenghuozhongyidingjinfangjiaoqianyanshen。

meigerendouyoufabiaoyanlundeziyou，douyoushufaqingxudexuyao，danzhaocuotujingbiaodajiuyaozuohaoweicichengdanhouguodezhunbei。

02

夸人时踩一捧一

pingshiwomendouzhidaozanmeikuajiangbierenkeyicujinrenjiguanxidehexie，danshikuarendeshihouyidingxuehuibimiancaiyipengyi，fouzezhihuibeidaoerchi。

jideyouyicinianzhongsuimo，womenbumendelingdaoweilejulongrenxin，guwushiqi，zitaoyaobaoqingdajiachifan。qizhongyiweitongshiganghaochuchameidecanjia。

dajiazuoluozhiji，youweitongshikaiwanxiaodishuodaihuiyaobameishipaizhangzhaofajineigechuchadetongshi，rangtazhidaotacuoguolezheimeduohaochide。

lingdaotinglexiaohehede。zaichangdelingyiweitongshixiaoa，huiyingdao：“renjiazaiwaimianchuchachidebinihaoduole。”lingdaosuiranmeishuosha，danshilianshangdebiaoqingzongguishiguaiguaide，zheihuajiuxiangzaibianditaqingdefana!

houlaicaishangwanle，dahuoerchidehenkaixin，xiaoafazineixinxiangyaozanmeiyixialingdaoqingchidecaitebiehaochi，shuodao：“zheixiecaidouhaohaochia，bipingshizaijiudianchidehunyanhaihaochi……”。

erzaichangdejiuyouhaojiweitongshijiehundoushizaijiudianqingde，qizhongyiweihaishibujiuqiangangjiedehun，qingdeke。zheihuayichu，bierendoumeizaijiele。

zheijiushicaiyipengyi，benyishiyaokuacaihaochi，duilingdaobiaodaxieyi，keshiyongbiandiqitarendefangshi，kuarenjiubianweile。zheizhongcaiyipengyidezuofadezuiqitarenbushuo，beikuaderenyebuhuihenkaixin。

03

无意中揭人伤疤

zheigegushilaiziwoyigeweirenshanliangsuihedepengyou，zaitasanshisuineinianyourenjitajieshaoleyigeduixiang，gefangmiantiaojiandourangtamanyi，weixinyiliaocaifaxianshitayiqiandetongbantongxue。

zhishizaineigeqingsedeniandai，tamensuirantongbanleliangnian，quemeijiangguoyijuhua。biyehougebendongxi，tameicanjiaguotongxuehui，bicizhijianjihumeiyouguanyuduifangdehuiyi。

zheiweinantongxuedezhiwopengyoushilaotongxue，tebieqinqie，liaobujiubianyixujiudeliyouyuelewopengyouchifan。

chifanshi，liaoqiyiqiandeshuxuelaoshi，nantongxueshuodangshidushushidaibijiaodiaopi，xuexichengjiyebuhao，youyicihejigetongxuedalanqiuwangjishangkeshijian，keyishangleyiban，tamencaimomodizoujinjiaoshi，zhijianlaoshibaketingxialai，haobukeqi，ehenhendimatamen：“laji!”

zheimeduonianguoqule，nantongxuebazheiduanjinglidangxiaohuajiangjiwopengyouting，wopengyouhuixiangqidangshishuxuelaoshiqueshishiyigecongbujixueshengliuqingmianderen，banshangjihumeigerendoubeixiongguo，baokuotaziji。

houlailianggerenliaodetinghao，yuehuijianmiandecishuyeduole。zhidaoyouyici，nantongxuegenwopengyouliaoqizhiqiantaqulingyigetongxuenongcunlaojiacanjiatadehunli，jigenianqingrenjuzaiyiqishebudechifan，zaiyibiandapaiwannao。

neigejiehuntongxuedeyeyejiaotamenchifan，jiaolehaojici，zhongyukanbuxiaqumamalieliedibapaishouzoule。zheigenvtongxuetinglehahadaxiao，shuodao：“ganjuedangshineigeyeyeneimexiongdiduidainimen，haoxiangwomendeshuxuelaoshia!”

zheiweinantongxuedunshibiaoqingbiandeyoudianqiguai，fuhedao：“shia，xiangshuxuelaoshimawomenlajideyangzi!”houlainantongxueduiwozheigepengyoubiandemeineimereqing，zuihouliangrenyemeizaiyiqi。

huoxuzheigenantongxueyoudianbolixin，danduitalaishuoyigeguoquzheimeduonianbeilaoshimadejinglizongshiyiduanbuhaodehuiyi，neiju“laji”jiuxiangyikuaibakezaitaxinli，jinguantahuiyundanfengqingdijiangjibierenting，danzuoweitingzhezaitijijiushijierenshangba。

shenghuozhong，jibianshiyigexihuanziwobiandiheziwodiaokanderen，yebuxiwangbierenxiangtazijineiyangbiandita，diaokanta。

shuohuashimenyishu，tongwangyishudedaolushangyouxuduokeng，yuanmeigerendounengxuehuibikai，diedaoledongdepaqilai，buyaoliangcixianjintonggekeng。