冷爱：办事说话能力低 我该如何自我提升

　　fuhezhihouhaixiangzhefenshou，xushuleyiduankankeercuozongfuzadeqingxulvtu。gushilideliangren，aidaoshenchujinbuzhufenshou，yiranzaifuhezhihouyouxianrumimangzhong。tamenshitudiyuzhexinliduifenkaidehaipa，quebimianbulexinxudefenza。zheileimaodundechuxianshitamenxianrulegengduowunaihemaodun，yucitongshiyetixianlerendebenxingshangduizhuiqiuxingfuhezhuiqiusuixinsuoyudeyonghengbubianzhuiqiu。sikaotamenneixindemimanghejiujie，yexukeyibangzhuwomengenghaodilejieaidefenfanfuza，yijirenmenzaifuheyihourengxiangyoufenshouniantoucuozongfuzadexinlizhuangtai。

　　困惑与茫然：复合以后的矛盾心理状态

　　zaiaiqingdeshijieli，fuheshiyizhongjiangerkefenkaidexinzhongliandejudong。danshi，youshihoudajiaganjuezijizaifuhezhihourengranbeifenshoudeniantousuoyingxiang，zheileimaodundechuxianrangrenkunhuobuyi。fuhezhihouhaixiangzhefenshou，jihuchengleyizhongqiteermanbujianglixinlizhuangtai。neiruguoshenrufenxizheizhongqingkuang，dajiayexunengfajuebeihoudeyuanyinhexinlixianxiang。

　　不甘心：复合所带来的挫败感

　　fuhedaibiaozheliangrenyoulegengduodejiyu，zaiciweiaiqingqinfen。danshi，yinweijingliguofenshoudekuchu，yiwangdeshangtongyiranzaixinshangpanghuang，shirenmenwufawanquanxuehuifangxia。suiranfuhejiushixiwangshiqixingfukuaile，danshineixindebuganheshiwangquenanyibaituo。ciwai，nanyiwanghuaidefenshouniantouyeqiaoranshanguowoxin，rangfuheyihoudeguanliangengweimingan。

　　害怕和不信赖：复合阴影

　　fuheyihou，renmentongchangxinhuaihaipahebuxinren。suiranbicizhijianquedingjibiciyicijihui，danguoqudeshangtongyiranliuxiashenshendeluoyin。lingyifangdemeiyigexingweidoushihuijifazhuduocaiyi，fuhebingmeijiejuecongqiandeheiying。zairucixinliyalixia，xuyaofenshoudeniantoumanmanzizhang，rangfuhexingfuyaoyaoyuzhui。

　　感性和理性相互碰撞：复合以后的挣脱

　　zaifuheyihou，lixingheganxingzhijiandedouzhengriqujilie。keguangaosuwomenwangjiguoqu，jixuqianxing；lixingquelingdajiaxianruhuiyiheqingganshangdexuanwozhong。zaizheiyangdemingzhibukeweizhidemaodunzhong，renmentongchangdanxinwanfen，duishenghuochongmanmangran。fuheyihouyirancunzaifenshoudeniantou，zhengshizheiyangdeganxinghelixingxianghupengzhuangdedaodejieguo。

　　追求随意和幸福：复合里的矛盾需求

　　fuhezhihouhaixiangzhefenshou，bujintixianleyiwangshangtongdenanyishihuai，gengzhangxianlerenmenduiyuziyouxingfukuailedezhuiqiu。fuhebingbudengyugezhongwentidoudedaojiejue，doububiaomingfuhebianshizhongdianzhan。xuduorenzaizhuiqiuxingfudeguochengzhong，kenengxianrusikaohetansuodemimangdangzhong。fuheshiyizhongceshi，tanxunliangrenshibushizhendeshiyi，yincifenshoudeniantouqiaoqiaodizizhangyeshikeyilijiede。

　　jiandandianlaishuo，fuhezhihouhaixiangzhefenshou，shiyizhongqingganshangdefanzaqingkuang。xinlidekunhuo、jiaolvheshiwang，heduiziyouxingfukuailedezhuiqiugouchenglemaodundexuqiu。zaizheiguochengzhong，renmentongchangxianruzhengtuohemimangdangzhong，wufaqingyijiejue。lijiezheizhongxintai，yexukeyijiangdibicizhijiandeyali，weifuheyihoudeguanlianzhurugengduolejiehekuanrong。