女生不会谈恋爱

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冷爱老师你好，我165/53kg，22，自评mv5分，国内top2高校金融专业研究生， 研究生以前从未谈过恋爱，有追求者追求坚决拒绝，因为父母不允许早恋，本科恋爱他们认为不可能在一起，故而也不同意，我本人当时也赞成他们的想法。上了研究生之后，因为有意读博士，所以父母希望马上找个男朋友，所以我也对自己的心态和形象上做了一定的调整，开学至今3个月也有了4.5个追求者，其中几个由于爸爸听后不同意所以直接拒绝了。

目前正在接受其中一个男生的追求，这个男生是本专业毕业师兄，170，26岁，体重不详，偏瘦，在投行工作，为人踏实肯干，家境不错，与我相近。 但是在他追求我的过程中，我发现自己非常不喜欢别人粘着我，不是他的问题， 只是我都会不耐烦。 而且我从小到大没有对任何男生产生过异样的情愫， 我想请问冷大我到底是有什么问题，家庭比较和睦，父母感情不算深厚但也相敬如宾，自己为何在这方面毫无感觉，不会谈恋爱， 我是不是该去看一下心态医生， xiexie！zhuningongzuoshunli，shentijiankang。

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