出轨不是真目的，这个才是男人真心声

 zuijinshoudaoyiweilaifangzhelaixin，tashuozijijingguoyidingdexuexihou，gennvpengyouguanxihehaole，danshiyiranyouliaosaodexiguan，gaibudiao，wenwozenmeban？

 qishizheizhongqingkuanghenchangjian，daduoshurendoushixihuanxunzhaocijidexinshiwu，duiganqinglaishuoyeshiruci，danshizheiyangdexingweiduiganqinghuizaochengyingxiang，suoyijintianjiuzheigehuati，liaoliaoduiyuliaosao，nanrendaodishizenmexiangde？

 shouxian，zaixintaidongyinshang，liaosaoshizhinannvzaihulianwangshangjinxingdechaoyueputongduihuadeliaotianneirong，zheixieneirongwangwangdaiyixieaimeishenzhitiaodou。

例如：

“xiaojiejiezaiganmani？”

“meiganma，chibinggana”

“硬不硬啊？”

“不硬”

“我的很硬哦~”

“fu(ˉεˉfu)gun”

“wodebingganqueshihenyingma，nishengshenmeqia~”

……

 dangxiahulianwangdekuaisufazhanjiliaosaotigongleshushidehuanjing，suizhegezhongshejiaoruanjianhepingtaidexingqirangmoshengrendeliaotianbiandeyichangqingsong，xuniwangluozhongliaojijuqinghuajiugengjiafangbianle，erqiejumeiguo《xinxishidaixiadechuguixingweibaogao》diaocha：

 59%denvxingrenwei，xiangqitayixingfaaimeixinxisuanshichugui，ernanxingzhiyou42%；70%denvxingrenwei，wangshangyuehuiliaosaosuanshichugui，ernanxingzhiyou55%zheimerenwei。

weishenmechaoguoyibandenanshengjuedeliaosaobushichuguini？

zheihenanxingdexintaidongyinyouguan。

 nanxingshenglaikewangbeikandaobeirenke(aimianzi)，suoyidangnanshengdeqingganxuqiubunengdedaomanzushi，huozheshuoqingganyuwangbunengbeiyunxushi，tajiuhuibazheifenchongdongzhuanyidaoyigezirenweianquandeduixiangshenshang，yiqiujianqingneixindejiaolv。

zheizaixintaixueshangchengzhiwei“zhihuanxiaoying”。

jiandanlaishuojiushiheairenzaiyiqimeiqu，xiangchuguiyoubugan，suoyijiuzhuanweiliaosaole。

 haiyoudexihuanliaosaoderenwangwangzaixianshizhongbubeidajiaxihuan，suoyitongguoliaosaolaizhanshizijidefengquyoumo、shuaiqiduocai，rangzijiganshoudaochengjiugan。

 xiaolidelaogongshigeshangbanzu，pingrilifeichangchongta，jiawuhuo、zuofansaodidoubuxuyaoxiaolishenshou，danshiyouyitian，dangxiaoliwuyijianfankanlelaogongdeweixin，faxiantahelingwaiyigenvshengzaiwangluoshangjingyilaogonglaopoxiangcheng。

 neirongyejijinguanxinzhiyu，conggongzuodaoshenghuoshenzhihailiaodaoletamendefangshi。 qinggannantihenxinlei？10skuaisushenqingqingganzhenduan！

 zaixiaolibiwenxia，laogongchengrenhenvshengshizaiyinianqiandayouxirenshide，houlaiweilelingyouxirenwujiuzuchengleqinglv，houlaijiucongyouxilichenghudaoleweixinshang。

 dangxiaolitichulihunshi，nanfangbutongyiyizaiwanliu，yizaiqiangdiaoconglaimeigenneigenvshengjianmianyemeiyouxihuanta，jiushijuederenhaibucuo，liaoliaotianyounengzenmeyangni，shuoxiaolixiangduole。

danshidaozuihou，xiaolihaishilihunle，tahewoshuozheishitadexinjie，tawufajieshou。suoyi，nantongbaomenqianwanbuyaoqushexian。

 neimehuiyouhunhoudexiaoxiannvwen“ruguozhendenanrenliaosao，danshiwobingbuxianglihun，zheiduanhunyinhaiyoujiuma？”daanshibuyiding，womenyaogenjubutongdeliaosaoxingweiduizhengxiayao。

erliaosaokefenweisanzhongleixing：

01

知己型

biru：“wohetazhishitandebijiaolaieryi，womenshihaopengyou”。

zheizhongliaosaoduixiangwangwangshishurenhuozheyigequanzideren。

 birunanrendechuzhongtongxue、tongshi，shenzhinvshengdeguimi。duifangwangwangyeyoujiating，zheizhongliaosaoyuanyindaduoshiduixianzaijiatingshenghuodebuman，huozhedangxiaganqingzhongjiqingdequeshi。

 dangniyishidaozijilaogongkaishiyouzheizhongliaosaodexingwei，shouxianjiuyaoguanzhuzainimenliangxiangchudeguochengzhong，shibushihenjiumeiyouyiqiguoerrenshijiele？

shifouhenjiumeiyouyiqichifan，henjiumeiyouyiqijingxiaxinlaihaohaoliaoliaotianle？

nizhidaotazuijingongzuoyudaoleshenmewentima？

nizhidaotaxianzaidezhuangtaishishenmeyangma？

 suoyizheishihouniyaozuodejiushiyingzaojiadehuanjing，zhizaoyixiejingxindeshike，zuoyixierangliangrenkuailedeshiqing，zhaohuijiqing，bingqieyidingchenredatie，zaiguanxizuiqinmideshihougentashuomingzheigexingweizijihenchicu，jiranshipengyou，shulihaoguanxi，youxiehuahaishibuyaoshuotaiduo。

02

好好先生型

youxienanrenhuishuo：“tazhendehaokelian，wozhibuguoshixiangpeitayixiaeryi。”

 zheiyileidenanshengwangwanghaihenrexinchang，huizhaoguren，woxiangxinruguonidelaogongshizheiyileixingdenansheng，neimenijiehunqiankendingyeshoudaotahenduodezhaoguba。

yushizaihunhounibajiadalideyuelaiyuehao，xinxiangzheiyanglaogongjiugengjiaainile，nimenhaikenengshipengyouyanzhongdemofanfuqi。

 danjiushineimeyicinifaxiantayouzheizhongliaosaoxingwei。zheizhongnanshengyidingshidajiazuiyuanyijitajihuigaiguozixinde，yuanyinshitazhendehenhaohenyouxiu，danshijiatingduitadexuqiubugoule，tajuedezaijialimeishachengjiugan，manmande，jiajiuchengweileyigeshuijuededifang，ertazaiguanxinrenshangmiandechengjiuganjiujiangdile。

 suoyidangyourenxuyaozhaotaqingsudeshihou，tajiufeichangyuanyi，zheileinanshengwangwangbuhuiroutichugui，danshitahenxiwangrangzheixiebuxingdenvrenganshoudaowennuan，congerzhaodaozijidejiazhi，yinweizheiyanghuirangtaganjuehenshufu。

 yudaozheizhongnanrenjiugenghaobanle，xiangyixiangdangniantazhuinishihounishizenmerenxingsajiaode，neimejiexialaizaitamianqianrenxingsajiaorangtaweinifuwu，buguobutongdeshixianzaimeicifuwuwandouyidingjidejitayixiejianglie，biruyigeqiaopideweixiao，yigenuannuandeyongbao，rangtaxiangshouzhaogunidekuaile！

03

渣男型

tamenhuishuo：“womenliangzhishiliaozhewanwan，woduinicaishizhenxinde。”

ruguoshizheizhongliaotiannijiuyaofenbianyixiale，shouxiantamenzhenderucima？

qicizheigerenzhendemeiyoumeilima？

yinweizheizhongleixingdeliaosao，wangwanghuitupoxianshideyueshu，mianjidekenengxingshide。

 tamenwangwanghuizailiaotianzhongqianchedaoliyi，ruhuzengliwu，dashangsonghongbaodengzheiyangtouruxingdexingwei。zheishizuixuyaojingtideleixing，yinweizheizhongqingkuang，nanrenyidingbaniheneigenvshengjinxingduibile。

 xianzaishuoduinishizhenxinde，zhishiweilezanshiwenzhuni，yinweinidejiazhigenggao，danshineixinyijingkaishiyousuobumanle，zhishibuganshuo。

 zheishiguniangmenjiuyaojitashiyale，shuliguiju，jianlidixian，kongzhijingjidaquan。tongshiyingzaomeihaoqifenlejienanshengdezhenshixuqiu，qianwanzhuyitashuodemeiyiju“wusuowei，douxing”。

 xuehuienweibingshi，zaizheiduanguanxilizhanjuzhudaoquan。dangnanshengzuoleduinimenguanxiyouyideshiqingjitayixiegulihekending，buruyigexiangwen，yijukuazan，huozhejianglizuodianhaochidejita(xingjiangliyeshiyizhongbucuodejiangli)。

chengdubutongjianglicelveyebutong。

tongshiweilefangzhijiangliduolemeixiaoguo，womenyaobianzhefaqujiangli。

 xianzaishehui，daochuchongchizhepiaoliangxiaojiejie。dakaiwangzhankanxinwendouhuitiaochu“xiaogegewozaidengni”suoyiwanquankaokongzhilairangyigenanshengbuliaosao，hennan！

 zaijiashangqueshihuijinanshengdailaikuaigan，yueyayiyuepanni。zainimianqianbulunzenyangfashibaozheng，diankaishoujijiushiyigequanxindeshijie，niwufakongzhitadesixiang。

congmingdegunianghuishenshidushi，xuehuifuqixiangchuzhidao，dudonglianrenxin，zhangwozhudaoquan。

zhuyuansuoyoudexiaoxiannvaiqingtianmi，hunyinxingfu！

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