情感维系：该不该为了爱情放弃现在的工作

 youqingganzixundao：“zijixianglaimeiyoushenmeanquangan，duilingyifanhenxihuanganqingquekazaiyidi，gaibugaiweileaiqingfangqixianzaidegongzuo，benxiangtashenbianni？”huazhenqingganzaibenwenfenxiangyigeqinggananli。

一、情感咨询

wo25sui，gangcongguowaihuilai，gongzuo4geyuele。ta28sui，zailaojiagongzuo。

 wohewonanpengyouzaiyiqisangeyuele。danshishiyidilian，kaishidediyitianjiushiyidilianle，tazailaojia，wozai1000gongliwaigongzuo。meigeyuewoyouxiujiakeyijianjitian，ganqinghenhao。

 wozhidaoxianzaishuoganqinghenhaoyoudiantaizaole，danshizhendehenhao，tadaiwojiantadepengyou，womenyehuxiangjianguojiazhang，doushitazhudongdaiwoqujiande。shuangfangfumu，pengyouyedoujuedetinghaode。

 woyinweiyuanshengjiatingdeguanxi，feichangmeiyouanquangan。erqiewotanlianaishiyigemeiyoutaoluderen，zhendejiushiquanshenxinfuchu，nengyouduohaojiuduohao。woyezhidaozheiyangbudui，danshikongzhibule。

haihao，tayeshizhidaofuchuderen。tanengzhidaowoduitahao，tayehuiduiwohao。

 manmandewoanquanganyezule。suoyiwojuedewohenxingyun，yehenzhenxita，juedenengyudaoyigewoxihuan，erqietayezhenxiwodenanshenghenburongyi。

xianzaiwojiushihenjieshoubuleyidilian。woxiangcizhihuijia，keshiyouhenhaipahuilaojiayihougongzuowenti。

wopawogongzimeiyouxianzainadegao，yinweiwozhidaojingjitiaojianduijiatinghenzhongyao。

 tayigeyueduoshaoqiangongziwoxianzaihaibuzhidao，womeiyouwenguo，danshiyinggaibugao，wocai3000duoba，wogongziyejiubitaduo2000。suoyihenhaipahuilaojiayihouwolianxianzaidegongzidounabudao，zuipadeshihuiquyihou，womenliangmeiyouzoudaozuihou，wohuibuhuihouhuifangqilexianzaidegongzuo。

 keshixianzaiyinweiyidilian，wogongzuoyezuodemeixinsi，meitiandouchaobukaixin，erqiemeitiandoudaojishixianghuilaojiajianta。napashikougongzi，yexiangduoqingjiahuiqujianta。suoyishibushiyezhengmingbiqiqianlaishuo，tagengzhongyaoni？

 tameiyoushenmerangwobumanyidedifang，tazhendehenshanliang，yehenyiqi。womeitiandouhaoxianghuiqu，xianghetazuyigefangzi，yidingchaoxingfu~

二、情感解答

 da：lianggerenzoudaoyiqi，yaojingguomiyueqi、moheqi，ranhoucaidaowendingqi。kannimendeliaotianjilu，nimenxianzaizhengchuyuzuirumengruhuande「miyueqi」。zheigeshihou，lianduifangfanggepidoushixiangde。suoyinihuishuo，“woxianghuiqugentazuyigefangzi，yidingchaoxingfu。”

keshizhenshideshijie、zhenshideshenghuoshishenmeyangdeni？

ruguonimenzhendehuiqugentazugefangziyiqizhu，neishihoujiuhuijinrumoheqi。

磨合期会发生什么？

kenengnihuikaishihuandehuanshi，nihuikaishixiang：

“woweilenifuchulezheimeduo，weinifangqileyiqiandexinzihegongzuohuidaozheili，nijuranhaibuzhenxi？！”

 “yiqianwangshangliaotianhaigenwoshuo‘nishikeai’，‘nishiwodexiaobaobei’，keshixianzaitiantianmianduimianshenghuozaiyiqideshihou，woquefangfochenglekongqi。”

“guoqushuohuibaohuwo，yizhichongzhewo，xianzailiankuaididoububangwonayige。”

renshihuibiande，qingkuangyehuibian。zaijinruneiyangmoheqideshihou，caishinimenguanxidezhenxiang。

suoyi，nidoubuxuyaocizhihuiqu，zhiyaokuaijinyixia，huayidiandianshijiantiyanyixiajiuhao。

biru，buguanshinihaishita，qingyiduanshijiandejia；youhuozhekankanshiniguoquhaishitaguolai，zaiyiqizhuyiduanshijian。

 nimencaizaiyiqisangeyue，kenengzhiyaonimenzhuzaiyiqilianggelibaihuozheyigeyue，jiuyijingnengkandaohenduowentidefasheng，ranhounimenshiruhechulide，nijiuzhidaole。

ruguonihaipahuilaojiadegongzuowenti，neijiukankanninanpengyoushibushikeyidaonizheililai。

 buguanruhe，lianggerennenggouduguomoheqi，cainenggouzhujianwendingxialai。zuihou，woxiangjinitigexing，moheqiyouliangjianzuizhongyaodeshiqing：

第一，彼此了解。

congyigerendemenghuandangzhongzouchulai，xuehuilejieduifangdezhenshi。

dier，xuehuituoxieheruhejiejuechongtu。

ruguojiejuebuledewenti，ruhemiandui？ruhegezhi？ruheyiqijixuwangqianzou？

shuobaile，qishijiushilejiehetuoxie。

liangrenjingguolelejiegentuoxie，jiuhuijinruwendingdejieduan。

所以，如果你真的想稳定下来，那就花一点时间进入下一个阶段吧。