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 henduorenzaiyikaishijiuzhidaozheigenongfudekexiaozhichu，danquezaizhangdayihoufanzhegennongfutongyangdecuowu。xiwangnicongjintiannengrenshidao，duiputongrenlaishuo，yexuzheibeiziyouneimeyiciliangci，nvhaihuizhudongqurenshini；danshizaijuedabufenshihou，ruguonibuzhudongqurenshitadehua，jiuzaiyemeijihuirenshile。

 suoyi，zhengquedefangfayaobiyunqigengzhongyao。yinwei，yishideyunqikeyirangnongfuouerchidaozhuangsizaishushangdetuzi，danshizhengquedefangfa，keyibaozhangnongfuzaiyishengzhongdedabufenshihoudouchishangtianlizhangchulaidemaizi。

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一、启动阶段

 youxieshiqing，rumenrongyi，jinjiehennan；youxieshiqing，rumenhennan，jinjierongyi。henbuxing，dashanjiushuyuhouyizhong。wufakaishi，yejiushishuogenbenwufaqidongzheijianshi，zheishihenduorenmeiyouxuehuidashandeyuanyin。

 xianzai，tingxialaihuiyiyixia，niyoumeiyoucengjingzailushangyujianguorangnixindongdeguniang？ruguoyoudehua，xiangxiangyixia，ruguoshiguangdaoliu，nihuibuhuiqugentarenshi？wocainikendingxiang。danshiwokeyibuleguandicaice，jibianshishiguangdaoliu，nihaishimeiyoubanfashangqugentarenshi。yinweinihaishineigeni，nimeiyougaibian。dangchuzuainirenshitadeyuanyin，xianzaihaizaineili。suoyi，zaiyikaishi，womenxuyaogaoqingchuyuanyin，ranhoucainengjiayijiejue。

genjuwomenguoqudejiaoxuehezixunjingyan，womenfaxianyibanrenwufashangqugennvhaizidashandeyuanyinzhuyaoyouyixiasanlei。

1、自我设限： yinweizhongzhongyuanyinzijijizijishedinglemougexianzhixingdefanwei。

 liruyinweimouxieyuanyingandaozibei：wotaichoule/womeiqian/wozhangdebugougao，tabuhuiliwode。youlirujiasheduifanghuijujue，suoyiyinweisuoweidezizun，bunengjieshoushibai，erbugankaishi，liru：tayaoshibuliwoduoshaguaa；wanyibeitajujueleduomeimianzia。

2、社交压力： ganshoudaosuochudeshejiaoxitongjizijidexingweishijialeyali，yinerwufaxingdong。

 liru：wohenvhaizishuohuadehuabierenhuibuhuijuedewoshiliumanga？woyaoshixianzaishangqupangguanderenhuibuhuikanwoxiaohuajuedewohenqiguaia？wojuedebierendouzaikanzhewo，wozheiyanghuibuhuibeibaoanganchuqua？

3、接近焦虑： xinlixiangchangshihuozheyijingquchangshijiejin，danjiejinnvshengdeshihougandaofeichangjiaolv。

 liru：dangxiangshangqudeshihouhunshenfajindanaoyipiankongbai，denghuiguoshendeshihounvhaiyijingxiaoshile。danghaoburongyiguqiyongqishitukaojinnvhaideshihou，shouxinmaohanxintiaojiasu，ranhoujiazhuangshiluguotashenbiandelurenzoukaile。haoburongyijiejinnvhaizi，xiangkaikoushuohua，danshifeichangjinzhangshenmedoushuobuchulai，ranhounvhaijiuzoule，ranhoujiumeiyouranhoule。

 yishangsandaleiqingkuangdoushifeichangchangjiande，dangran，chuciyiwaihaiyouzheiyangneiyangdeyuanyin，lirutuoyanlahuanjingladengdeng。danshibuguanzenmeshuo，ruguoniyouzheiyangneiyangdewentiermeiyoudashan，doushizhengchangde。womenxuyaozuodeshichengrenzheixiewenticunzai，bingqiejieshoutamen，ranhouzaiyuyijiejue。xiamianwomenzhuyilaifenxixia。

 shouxian，ruguonishuyudiyidalei，ziwoshexiandewenti。neimezheikenengshiyigexiangduiyanzhongdewenti，yinweizheibujinyingxiangnidashanhenideqingganjingli，gengzhongyaodeshihaihuiyingxiangdaonishenghuodefangfangmianmian。yigewufaziwojienaderen，huidaozhishenghuoshangdequanmianshibai。zheigewentibijiaofuza，wozhuanmenweicixieleyipianwenzhang，wobawenzhangdelianjiefangzaizuihou，nikeyishaohouzaikanwanzheipianzhinanzhihouzaizhuanmenyueduzuocankao，zaizheilijiuxianbuzhankaile。

 qici，ruguoshuyushejiaoyalidewenti，neikenengbijiaohaojiejue。womenzhiyaogaoqingchuyijianshi：bierengenbenmeiyouneimezhuyini。nikeyizuogexiaoshiyan，baniyifuhuozhekuzimougedifangteyinongzangranhoubuquguantazhaochangshenghuo。zheikuaidifangkenengnizijihuijuedehenmingxian，danshitongchangyitianxialaidoumeiyourenherenhuifaxianta。youhuozhe，nizaiditie、naoshizheiyangrenliumijidedifang，zhiyaochangshijiciciqugenmoshengrenshuohua，nihuifaxiandaduoshushihouhaowuyali，bierenyaomejiushiyiweinimenshirenshide，yaomejiushimeiyouzaiyinimengenbenmeifaxiannimenzaiduihua。dangran，nikenenghuimeiyouyongqikaishichangshi，meiguanxi，womenzaihoumianhuigaosunizenmekaishi。

 zuihou，ruguoshijiejinjiaolvdewenti，zheishizuichangjiandeyeshijiejuede。wotebiexuyaogaosunideshi，ruguoniyoujiejinjiaolv，shuomingnishizhengchangren！womenfaxian，napashijingguozhuanmendashanxunlianderen，yehuicunzaijiejinjiaolv。genjujinhuaxintaixuedejiashe，jiejinjiaolvkenengshiyinweizaigudaiwomenshenghuozaibuluoshidaideshihou，womendoushenghuozaixiaotuantizhong。neishihouruguonisuiyiqujiejinyigenvxing，kenenghuidaozhiqitabuluolidenanxingshanglaijiujiniyibangzi，congerchanshengshengmingweixian。womenxuyaorenshidao，jiejinjiaolvhenkenengshiweileyanxuwomenshengmingerchanshengdeyizhongbaohujizhi。womenxianjieshouta，ranhou。womenzaixiamiandezhengshilianxizhong，ziranhuiyoufanganqubimianta。

二、正式练习

jingguoshangmiandefenxi，womendazhigaoqingchulewufakaishideyuanyin，neimewomenjiexialaijiuyaozhengshikaishilianxile。

zaizhengshidelianxizhong，qiangdu、fangfahedonglishizuizhongyaode。

 shouxian，zhiyougaoqiangdudelianxicaihuirangnichanshengzhibian。duiyuxinshoulaishuo，zheigelianxiqiangdubutaihaozhangwo。womencengjingjixueyuanceshiguo“rixingyishan”dao“yitianyibaicidiyudashan”delianxiqiangdu，qianzheqiangdutaididaozhixiaoguoshenwei，houzheqiangdutaidadaozhishenzhiyouxierenwanquanshoubule。houlaiwozaiwomendezhangdaqitiandeshizhankechengzhongxunzhaodaoleyigezuiheshideqiangdu：meicilianxiliangzu，meizushierci，meizukaishizhihoubunengxiuxi，bixuchixudaozheiyizulianxijieshuhou，caikeyixiuxi，zujianxiuxibunengchaoguoshifenzhong。

 qici，dashandefangfayouhenduohenduozhong，nikeyizhijiekaichang，yekeyiyongjianjiedehuatikaiqidashan，haikeyisuizhedangshidehuanjinghelingganziyoufahui。

 womenjianyixinshouyikaishilianxideshihoushiyongzhijiekaichangleidefangfa，erbushishiyong：“nihao，woshijiepaisheyingshi。”dengdengjianjiededashanfangshi。yinwei，worenweibianzaoshenfenyexunengdechengyishi，dandengmeizimingbaiguolaizhihou，nihuimianlinjibenchengxinshangdehuaiyi。gengzhongyaodeshi，bianzaoshenfenyuanziyuziwoxianding，tadeqianzaidongjishibuzixin，buxiangxinzijikeyizhuadaoduifangdezhuyili，buxiangxinzijikeyihuodeduifangdelianxifangshi。zheijiuxiangshiyedianlimouxierenyizuoxialaijiubacheyaochipaizaizhuoshang。tamenneixinshenchudoubuxiangxinzijikeyibujiezheixiewaizaililiangxiyindaonvhai。erzhijiekaichangdebutongzhichuzaiyu，jingguohelidelianxi，takeyirangniduanshijianneijiutupoziwoxianding。

zhijiekaichangdefangshiyouhenduo，xianyupianfu，zheilijieshaoyizhongxiangduizirandezhijiekaichangdashanfangfa。

 dashandediyiyaowushizhencheng，bunengsahuangpianren。ziranzhijiekaichangdashan，zaijinruzhengshiliaotianzhiqian，dazhishangkeyifensangebuzhou： zhuazhuyili —— biaominglaiyi —— jibenxinxijiaohuan。

1、抓注意力；  liru“hai”、“nihao”dengdeng。zhuyizhitidongzuo，buyaokaonvhaizitaijin，zhuyiyinliang，buyaotaixiaoshengburanduifangtingbujian。

2、迅速表明来意；  liru“wogangzaizaineibiankandaonizouguolai，juedehentebie，suoyigennidagezhaohu。” zheigebuzhouyaodianzaiyu，niyaolikerangduifangzhidaonizhishiyoulimaodexiangyaorenshita，nibushimaianlide、bushizuobaoxiande、bushituixiaoxijianchuide、yebushiguaishushu。

3、基本信息交换；  liru“wojiaoxxx，wozaizheilibalabala，woyihuieryaoqubalabala。。。” zhuyizaizheiliyidingyaohelidijieshiqingchu，nicishicikeweishenmehuichuxianzaizheili；jiangqingchuniyihuieryaoquganshenme，buyaorangduifangjuedenihuijiuchanta。ruguoduifangfanyinghaikeyidehua，yinggaijiexialaixunsuzhenchengkekaodixianjiangzijidexinxi，liru“wocongnalilai，woshizuoshenmede。。。”

 zhuyi，zheisangebuzhouzhijianyidingyaoyoutingdun，jiduifangyifanyingshijian。yibanlaishuo，fanyinghaodehua，tahuizaimeigebuzhougennihudong，keyigenjuduifangdejishifanyingdiaozhengtanhuadecixu。jiexialairuguohudongkeyidehua，buyaojizheyaolianxifangshi，keyikaishizhengshiliaotian、shenzhizhankaijishiyuehui。

zuihou，womenyaoyoubijiaohelidebanfaqukaishishangmianrichangdelianxi。

 ruguonizhinengzijiyigerenlianxi，erqiemeiyoulaoshidehua，xiamianlianggebanfakeyibangzhunitupoyikaishidenanguan。yigebanfashimeicilianxideshihou，jizijishedingyigejiangchengtiaojian，liruruguozuodaole，jiujianglizijikeyichuqulvxing，ruguomeizuodao，jiuchengfazijiquxiaosuoyouyuledengdeng；haiyouyigebanfashizaimeicilianxi

 danshigenghaodeqingkuangshi，nizhaoyigerengenniyiqilianxidashan。yigehaodadang，huidadatishengnilianxidexiaolvgenchenggongkenengxing。ruguonizhaobudaodadanghuozhebuxiangzaixianzaideshejiaoquanlimianzhaodehua，keyizaizaizhuanmendedashanlianxiwangzhan，liru：paopaolianaixueshequ paoxue.comshangmian，fabuyigexunzhaohuobandetiezi，jiukeyizhaodaoyiqilianxidexiaohuoban。

 lianggerenzaiyiqi，zuichangjiandeyiqilianxifangshishiyajinfa，lirulianggerenkaishiyizulianxideshihou，meirennachuyiqianliangbaikuaifangdaoyigeyajindaizili，nimenliangrendeyajinjiuyigongyouliangqiansibaikuai。jiexialailiangrenlunliuchushoulianxi，lundaodeneigeren，chushoudehua，wulunzuihoujieguoruhe，doukeyicongyajindailinayibaikuai，zhiyaomeichushoudehua，zeshoudaochengfabunengnaqian，ruciwangfan，zhidaoyajindaiqingkongweizhi，zebenzulianxijieshu。tongyangde，zaimeizulianxijiangezhongcainengxiuxishifenzhong。

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